Vulnerability isn’t letting it all out, burdening others with our deep seated fears or telling stories that make others uncomfortable. Creating an image that we are perfect, we have all the answers and that we are never wrong stifles our own growth and those of others around us. We can either be vulnerable and form meaningful relationships or hide behind our protective armor where others cannot see our true selves. Instead of spending our mental energy in doing the right thing, we spend it in trying to be right. Trying to keep up with this image turns into a constant fight with ourselves since it’s not who we really are. We project confidence even when we are scared, speak with surety even when we are unsure, hide our mistakes with the fear of disapproval and avoid confrontation to save ourselves from the risk of emotional exposure. But instead of embracing vulnerability, accepting our fears and leading with curiosity, we put on a shield of protection. Risky situations, anxiety from the unknowns and the danger of being exposed evoke the same emotional response as the fear of being chased by a predator. Just like a tortoise hides inside its shell and a porcupine’s sharp quills leap to attention when they sense danger, we human beings also put on protective armor when we feel threatened.
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